Many of us are born and raised in particular environments or situations that end up shaping who we become as adults, and the way we perceive life overall. Many of those memories from our past left a mark in our hearts, and that's what creates the emotional attachment towards each experience. The situation can be different for every person, it's all about the type examples that we had since birth and the mental programs we obtained from those experiences. Some of us are born in situations of comfort, where it "seems" as if we have everything we need and our parents or the ones who raised us are considered heroes or people we look up to. On the other hand some of us are born and raised in environments of chaos, violence, powerless, abandonment and confusion.
Two sides of the coin that might seem very different, but they both can be very toxic to our minds equally if we are not aware of how they apply to our life.
If we talk about what mental programs are, I think it is related to anything that limits the mind of an individual, or creates some type of restriction. When I say limitation, I'm referring to our minds not being able to change our beliefs, to see things from a different perspective, never get enough or even be happy at all. Regardless of how we grew up or were raised, I think the top responsibility of every person out there is to become aware of the baggage or toxic beliefs that we carry since little that will continue holding us back until the day we become aware of them.
For example; Just because I grew up in one of the most violent places in the world, it doesn't mean I will become a violent person for the rest of my life. Or just because our parents paid all our expenses since birth and took care of us,it doesn't mean they were the best examples to follow. Most of our parents had the best intentions to help us, but most of the time they focus on what they "believe" will be beneficial for us, and completely ignore what we really want. This might be a very hard thing for many of us to accept, but there is one important thing, truth doesn't require any type of belief system or emotional attachments involved.
We have to be brutally honest with ourselves about why we do what we do in life to track every little mental program we have. As long as we always focus on keeping with us what's going to be beneficial, and put aside what creates limitations in our way of thinking, I think no matter the situation we are in, we will always know our path. If we focus on that, it will become so much easier to get rid of all the old programs from our past or childhood. Let's keep in mind that we are all human beings learning how to walk, it's good to always admire people, but lets remember that we are human beings.
"We spend the first year of a child's life teaching it to walk and talk and the rest of its life to shut up and sit down. There's something wrong there."
― Neil deGrasse Tyson
"Birds born in a cage, grow up thinking that flying is a disease."
- Alejandro Jodorowsky.